I will never forget my children’s words that day.
I remember where I was when I got a phone call from a friend, who knows I don’t watch much television, and especially not news. It was early in the morning; the kids had just left for school. I was cleaning up breakfast.
Turn on your television.
Just turn it on, I don’t even have words, I can’t…. just turn it on. Turn on the news.
And then, hours of staring in disbelief as one of the Twin Towers was in flames after being plowed through with an airplane. Then the second airplane. The second Tower. The people running covered in dust and ash. The horror. The tears and emotions I couldn’t even describe or put reason to.
I lost all track of time until my youngest son, only in Kindergarten, so only half days at school, came in the front door. It took me a second to register that he was standing at the door looking at me. I immediately called him over to the couch to sit with me. I put my hands on his head, kissed his head, his face, and pulled him close.
How are you? Did you see what happened? Did they say anything at school?
Mommy, it’s so sad.
I know Boo.
He turned at looked at the TV, stared for a minute. I could see so many thoughts going through his young mind.
What are you thinking?
There are so many kids without their mommies or daddies. So many kids that won’t get hugged tonight.
This child blew me away. I thank the stars for his incredibly sensitive teachers. I don’t know that he came to that realization on his own or with their help, but I do know that if they had not been very sensitive to the fact that they had very young and impressionable children in their care, while they were trying to deal with their own emotions that morning, he could have had a very different outlook that day.
Those words would be enough, the enlightened realization that other children would be not just suffering, but unable to find comfort from their parents.
But, from the mouths of babes we find real truth. I’ve told this story before, maybe 20 times. But it has not felt more poignant than today.
President Bush came on the television later that night. The kids and I all watching, listening as he said “America was targeted for attack because we’re the brightest beacon for freedom and opportunity in the world. And no one will keep that light from shining.”
Then, as the President ended his speech, he quoted a bible verse and said, “May God Bless America”.
Now, I am perfectly fine with that in general. I believe that if you are American, you should pray to whatever your version of God is, that America stays safe. That’s cool. I’m even ok with the President quoting a bible verse, even though I do feel there is a little mixing of church and state in that, which by all technicality shouldn’t really be done. But, since the President is Christian, and he is doing his praying to his belief of who God is, ok, he’s entitled as well as any of us.
What surprised me, and has stuck with me is my oldest son, then 11 years old, looking at me, a million questions in his eyes, and saying,
Didn’t the people who flew the planes into the Towers do it because they think their God is better?
Sort of. These people were very extreme, but yes, they claim they did it because we don’t have the same faith.
Then why would the President say God bless America? Isn’t he doing the same thing? Isn’t he saying our God is better than theirs? Won’t they come do something else to prove their God is better?
And then my 3 young children and I had a pretty incredible conversation about how the pilgrims first came here to flee religious persecution, and why that was the main reason our Founding Fathers created a government that was separate from any church, so that religion would not guide the way our country ruled itself; allowing the tired, poor, huddled, homeless and tempest tossed because they understood that religion can rule the home, but should not rule the state.
We talked about how the President’s words could make people like those who flew those planes want to hurt us more, but that freedom is what our country is standing for, not God. That’s why we have freedom of religion here. Some people don’t want freedom for everyone, they want to control everyone instead; and very often they use religion to control. Being ruled by one religion is exactly the opposite of what our country stands for. Freedom is what our country is founded on and what we hope to preserve.
It has been so difficult to watch the events of the last year, as the freedom our country stands for is being turned on its heels, when the words of President Bush,
“A great people has been moved to defend a great nation. Terrorist attacks can shake the foundations of our biggest buildings, but they cannot touch the foundation of America. These acts shatter steel, but they cannot dent the steel of American resolve. America was targeted for attack because we’re the brightest beacon for freedom and opportunity in the world. And no one will keep that light from shining.”
“Tonight, I ask for your prayers for all those who grieve, for the children whose worlds have been shattered, for all whose sense of safety and security has been threatened.” (Emphasis added),
have been twisted and turned in on themselves.
We are now in a time when our beacon of freedom and opportunity have been shut off. Our doors are being shut to the religiously persecuted. We’re pushing out or shutting down anyone that doesn’t suit the religious beliefs of the ruling party, fit the physical description of the ruling party, or the ‘class’ of the ruling party.
We’re being regularly lied to, gaslighted, slight-of-handed, and fed a stream of incompetence disguised in power.
On one level, this has been very good for the awakening of the people to see how we just haven’t come as far as we thought. Merely pushing things under the rug, doesn’t make them go away. Hiding under “that’s just the way it is”, isn’t going to work anymore.
Now more than ever we need the prayers, to whoever you see as God, to pray for America to make it through this intact. Those who help build our country, feed our country, and strengthen our country, have had their sense of security and safety threatened… by our own government.
Those lucky of you not to feel threatened by this, try to understand that just because you don’t feel threatened, doesn’t mean no one else does.
We are no longer establishing ourselves as the brightest beacon for freedom or opportunity. Our government is trying to close off entrance to our bright minds, our families, our doctors, scientists, our workers, that come from Muslim countries our government doesn’t have business interests in, or Mexico because “they’re not like us”.
Our government is not only trying to rule using religious beliefs as a motivator, it’s trying to push an elitist, xenophobic, misogynistic back-peddle.
I know it’s going to hurt a lot of feelings out there, but America is not a Christian nation. We are a nation that allows freedom of religion. Our founding fathers separated church and state on purpose, so that we could not have a national or state religion. You cannot claim to stand by the Constitution and also say America is a Christian nation. You can’t, it’s not true; the First Amendment makes that idea illegitimate.
Church can rule the home, but it should not rule the state. Choose to or not to use birth control, depending on your beliefs, but NOBODY’s personal religious beliefs should be determining the choice of other Americans.
I don’t believe in abortion personally, I have never had one, but my belief should not rule out the ability of another woman to make that heartbreaking choice. It’s their choice. Let God do his own work in the end, it’s His/Her/It’s decision on who is ultimately “heaven” worthy, not ours.
I understand the concept of it being murder, but while there is no viable ability for the fetus to live outside the womb, it’s inside her body. That gives her the choice to choose how to best take care of her body. Some people take vitamins, some people take a prescription to keep their bodies and minds healthy. Sometimes, a woman may need to terminate an unplanned pregnancy to keep her body and mind healthy. It’s never an easy choice, it’s not made lightly, and it’s none of anyone else’s business. Trying to create laws about abortion is a religious verdict, and has no right to be part of our country’s laws as such. And planned parenthood does SO MUCH MORE than abortion services. Abortion counseling, that happens before any services are rendered, clearly indicate and elaborate on options other than abortion. Planned Parenthood also offers adoption counseling….
They say it’s so unfair that Muslim men “make” their women wear hijabs, (to cover themselves, to protect themselves from unwarranted stares). They must stay covered up? That is terrible. That is abuse of male power.
But, yet it’s acceptable to “make” someone have a child, no matter the circumstances. No matter their ability to emotionally or physically or financially take care of the child. It’s acceptable to “make” someone risk getting pregnant, risk getting sexually transmitted diseases, risk not detecting breast cancer. That’s ok.
It’s morally right to have no option for gynecological health care, but to make someone wear a head covering, no.
And yet, a woman who is raped, will be asked that horrible victim-blaming first question, “What were were wearing?”
They say it’s so unfair that Muslim men “don’t allow” their women to have freedom. They must be accompanied always. They’re under their man’s thumb constantly; that’s so terrible. That is abuse of male power.
But yet, it’s acceptable to “not allow” women to have a legal foundation to argue upholding or gaining their legal rights as citizens, because American citizens are still allowed to be treated differently by gender. Women face far more difficulty fighting for their rights as citizens, if those rights have been violated because they are women. The government can still pass laws that consider men and women as different kinds of citizens. Yes, still. Yes, in America.
I don’t want any more terrorists in America. But I sure don’t want an America that sits inside its walls shivering in fear either. That’s what Shrump is trying to do.
‘Everyone that doesn’t fit into the plan, OUT.’ ‘Quick! build the walls, their coming to get us!’ ‘Aren’t we great? Look all the bad guys are out there now.’ ‘America first, America only.’ ‘Why doesn’t anybody like us? We’ve been so good to them before. Look at all those good things we did, very good things, the greatest things, that’s why we’re great.’ ‘Fine, we’ll show them!’
All the -isms are being put out in full force for the masses to feed on. It’s so familiar. We’re ok, the -isms don’t affect us. The -isms are only going to find the bad guys. Only bad guys fall into the -isms, and they’re all bad guys. Sure, there’ll be a couple mistakes along the way, but it will be mostly the bad guys.
America, wake up.
This isn’t going to make America great. It’s going to make America fall.
I want a great America, for my children, for my future grandchildren. I want a great America.
But, for that to happen, we need our beacon turned back on. We need to stand for freedom and equality for ALL. We need to have compassion, dialogue, and a standing respect of the land. Greatness does not come from supreme powers, greatness comes from shared values, mutual respect and understanding.
It certainly doesn’t come from cozying up to Putin, or devaluing the media, or having no ascertainable ability to tell the truth, or repeating propaganda, or hiding personal ties to whatever, or telling everybody in the world fack off, America first, or religious persecution, or racial profiling, or any of the astounding non-American things that have happened in what is days away from only the first MONTH of Shrumps administration.
This guy is what is going to make people like those who flew those planes want to come back again, not saying God bless America.